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FCAN: Voices That Care
Real Facts About the Foster Care System



Of all tyrannies a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good if its victims may be the most oppressive.
It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. --C.S. Lewis

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REAL FACTS

about the

It Takes A Parent :             never forget, PARENTING IS WORK.
NOTE: we are not against parenting or parents per se. To the contrary, we are decidedly for any good parenting, and certainly are supportive of all good caregivers whether parents, foster parents, etc. Neither are we anti-government, though a strong strain of vigilance or almost libertarian `scepticism` pervades our work. Good parenting deserves allies wherever they may be found, and agencies must be held to the highest standards of integrity. That is our purpose and ideal. Are you with us?

FOSTER CARE SYSTEM

lest kids become Nobody's Children

LET NOTHING DISMAY YOU
(PARENTAL ANGUISH) -- from actions committed in the name of the children and their "best interests."

Bad parents ruin the image of the good ones. Over eager child agencies may have been lax signing up unqualified care-givers for children in their charge. A conflict of interest, considering the bigger the caseload the more cushy their own budget funding!! But do they back you up when the least little thing goes wrong? You are expected to be saints or angels protecting these kids, many of whom are not easy to love, constantly want to go right back to some earlier situation, and the agencies undercut you at the least sign of supposed unhappiness of the child. Truly, parenting is the work of the angels. But we need back-up, not betrayal. This is not the way to repay decent care givers, lumped in with the bad ones!

Some Recent Cases [horror stories, scarey but true] :

Cheryl asks: who appreciates our work?

Don't kids need some Permanence? The New Inquisition The bedrock Bible cure for porn addicts

And PARENTS meanwhile,
see their children taken away, their authority undercut, their family unit disrupted, even destroyed. Surely this was not the intent of the Mondale Act (CAPTA). We see parents truly fearful for the safety of their children in foster care, in the face of increasing reports of neglectful or calloused foster care providers, whose commitment to their charges sometimes runs no deeper than the last check. Alas, some angry parents have even turned to Lawsuits (in the west, as well as in the east), sometimes justifiably, but thereby frightening away foster parents who would be potentially good caregivers. See June 2002 case. It's a catch-22 for policy-makers.

Before you get hit,

consider Pre-paid Legal for Foster Parents ONLY. This commercial offer is posted here for your discretion. We make no endorsement, and would like to hear if you get satisfaction from their service. Caregivers, like all Parents, need to know their options. After all, Parents have traditional prejudices on their side, they have churches and religion backing them up. What do Foster Parents have???? They are supposed to have the law supporting them, but as you can see, it often does not work that way.

Yet POSITIVE SIGNS are all around,
CONSIDER San Joaquin County of California, where a range of perspectives, parent activists, and seriously concerned agencies have joined forces to forge an innovative set of procedures that aims at WIN-WIN for not just children, but their parents, too. The heart of this family-sentered approach is a family conferencing model. Is it working? Those involved report that the goal is building partnerships between the family, community, and government. They say, "The San Joaquin family conferencing model is rooted in the belief that the best care and protection for children can be achieved by joining the strengths of families with community and agency support systems." Sounds positive. One that truly strengthens families, and ideally helps the children most. We wish them the best.

Half a Million Kids in Foster Care

Parents' Rights Activists CRY:

 

. . . . don't let your child be NEXT!

Where are checks and balances?

Where is due process of law?

Where is the ancient principle of the sanctity of family?

  .   .   .   or even the basic "honor thy father and thy mother"??

Dr. King said: Injustice anywhere - is a threat to justice everywhere



Armed With Hope

Is this America?

Our ancestors fought tyranny, abolished slavery, outlasted communism ...

They joined together, willing to sacrifice their lives, their fortunes
and yes their sacred honor -- all for the sake of

us their children, their posterity


What about our children? Our posterity?


Repent America
Time to Repent, America

Hazel McBride, a contemporary suicide researcher and psychotherapist ... "No government and no court should be allowed to take a child from a parent unless there is a very, very, very good reason," says Dr. McBride. "Because to have a child ripped from you, it's the same as a child dying. It's absolutely uncivilized, barbaric and devastating for any parent. It's not uncommon for these people to suffer depressive breakdowns."

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The Angels Care

Foster.Care.Abuse.Network

LINKS SECTION

If you're a foster survivor, or have a success story, or to bless others, we want to hear from you. We are trying to give a more encouraging gist to our page. Accordingly, we are seeking cases with positive outcomes, instances of cooperation, stories of improvement, or where the system worked. Ideally, we prefer stories where good has come out of hardship, or where a former troubled youth has "forgiven" and turned past difficulty into a springboard for growth. We welcome your kudos of foster heroes, regardless the role they play after all, any good parenting is truly the work of the angels.

If you have a link to list online or find broken links , email Bob Shepherd.

For a message of hope



Affected parents and families -- going public with your own case is a decision only to be made by you and yours. But shining a light is what it's all about. Others may be helped by learning of your struggles, your ups and downs. We wish to thank the courageous folk who have contributed their stories (see below Lifting the Veil) for these, or other, webpages.

Webmasters -- do we have your related link below? PLEASE let us know, and we will add you. Be sure also to submit your URL to the top ten search engines, such as   HotBot,   Open Directory,   Lycos, Northern Light and AltaVista. And then there's Yahoo! -- worth the process.

Also, if you would, a link from your site to ours would help us spread the message . . . . Parenting     IS     work!

On your keyboard press CONTROL-D



Is Corporal Punishment always and in every case
a danger to the child's well-being?


(It wasn't in the fifties. Either in homes, or church homes, or schools, or reform schools!)

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Lifting the veil:

a system Out of Control

Sometimes healing society around us
Includes healing ourselves as well.

The problem with the 'accusation' culture
Custody Coach : working with the system
Native American Children swept off into Foster Care
Linda Martin: Help, Hope 4 the CPS-abused
The hardness of heart of the elites: a warning
I always just bent over and took it (foster survivor)
Foster Mom's Perspective: Karen Ball
God Hates Child Abuse: hope for the hurting
CPS hurts my angel Arizona and other
OVERHAUL the Mondale Act (CAPTA)
Allegations: prevention and survival
Foster provider VICTIMS of lying girl
System abuses detailed by foster mom
ENCOURAGEMENT: old time mothering
Foster survivor now helps others - "learning to live again"
Forgotten wisdom for our day: people needing people
Kay Henson : Wisconsin jailed Spanking Mom
Model Families (children and families) Florida Support
Abuses by authoritarian caregivers Florida cases
Foster Survivors - they grow up and tell
Studying the Roots of Family Violence
Dorothy Hayden : alternative therapies
Climbing Out of the Spiral (hope for the hurting)
Our "Enlightened" do-gooders? or are they either?
Heartbreak and hope : Kentucky Mom
Child Protection Reform - the lobby
Kid-hostages: Black journalist muzzled?
Justice Junction: shedding light on a mess
The New Inquisition (falsely accused)
Heritage for kids : foster kids make good
Spanking Mom suffers Statist intrusion
Spanking debate continues (parents and state)
A New Vested Interest - therapists
Children, Foster Care and Juvenile Justice
Fostering Success: education matters
IPT - Emerich Thoma - Foster Care Issues
Debate over parents spanking unruly offspring
The lost children : remember foster kids
AFRA family rights (Massachusetts)
Our family was worth saving (Malcolm X)
Exposing BC's seizure of children
New World Order Targets US Children
Help for persecuted parents
Texans Against False Allegations
Kiwi: Robin promotes reform in NZ
Millstones : your child is a GOVT commodity
Give Families a Voice
Christines Case - Oregon
Mother Interupted - Oregon
Foster Cycling, damaged children
The Politics of Children, all over
False allegations child sexual abuse
Healing Broken Families: is there really hope?
Foster abuse: fight CPS and win
Mother's Loss : feels let down by CPS
Dare to voice out: grassroots activism
To err is human: all too common @ CPS
The Sword & Spirit Band, for adoptive and foster children VT
Traditional methods often surpass modern ones
Heartbreak and joy - my attiude is gratitude
Families Against Abuse - Audrey Serrano
NY hearts aching: kinfolk care about kids
Most famous foster child EVER [Moses]
Parody of Church Sex Abuse Accusations
HISTORY: the kidnapping of Edgardo Mortara
Equal Parenting (Shared) collaboration helps
It takes a parent (as Betsy Hart says)
Hope 4 Kidz [touch the wall - and pray]
Take stand against CPS abuse
      Texas group lobbies for reform
Foster success: Alonzo Mourning
Hear the children's cry: are we listening?
Faith and hope needed in homes today
Not where they belong God Help the Children
Proclaims Foster Care Successes (kids-peace)
The Sword and the Spirit (band) ministering to kids Vermont
Surviving a foster care hell: the new book
Making good come from bad : success story
Reliable answers: grassworks fight to reform CPS
Many FAITH-BASED Programs provide needed service
Foster care problems: the bad ones hurt everyone
Rosie O'Donnell supports NY-Foundling
Dorothy's Never Coming Home
Fight CPS : website lifts a voice for families
Beating abuse foster survivor coaches others
America's fall from grace (spoilt, affluent, corrupt)
Reclaiming Lives: academic survey (Schroedel)
From Fostered to Flourishing - Livvy Love
Hope Village for Children - Sela Ward
Foster survivor: growing up and finding healing
Wonder Wise : your parents and your children
Overcoming - foster success story on PBS
Anti-Muslim Bias in placement of children
Napoleon Williams case Decatur IL: more
Sue the CPS? (Family Law: you and the state)
A built-in bias against African-Americans?
Spanking and foster parents (state hysteria)
Are BOTH sides wrong about Spanking?
Court battle on spanking issue Canada
Biblical Church defends spanking Canada
Parent-Child Advocacy Canada
State "overreaction" (erring on side of caution)
The last prejudice - institutional Christianity
The VOCAL organization, Missouri chapter
Children hurt by foster system Lauretta Ali
Appeal for Justice - 'capalaw' New York
Needless intervention southern Ohio
Fighting for the rights of children
The truth comes out - 8 mos late
Child abuse does happen
Cost of child abuse laws
AL: Child abuse: facts or fear
Foster Care Success Story
Wounded Innocents book review
Foster care abuse Colorado
Fostered Abandoned Children Together
The family and the Constitution
Injustice Busters
ACCUSED
Love Junkie
Adoption Issues Explored
Help Us Adopt (organization)
Adoption Resources and INFO
Profane Justice
Sheri Griggs: "AFRAID"
How CPS Works
Simmons Family Speaks Out
Parental Alienation Syndrome
Childrens Rights Advocacy
Paul Craig Roberts - at Christmas
It's happening in Scandinavia, too
CPS Abuse - put your link here
The Real Victims (Wexler's book)
Strong families make safer communities
Ben Nighthorse Campbell: foster success
Daddy don't cry (like Elvis' song)
How important our fathers are
The Heart Knows Something Different
      Teenage Voices from the Foster Care System


mandated reporting laws




Never Give Up!
Martin Luther King, Jr. declared :

Faith in the dawn arises from the fact that God is good and just. When one believes this, he knows that the contradictions of life are neither final nor ultimate. He can walk through the dark night with the radiant conviction that all things work together for good for those that love God [and are called according to his purpose]. Even the most starless midnight may herald the dawn of some great fulfillment.

The dawn will come Disappointment, sorrow, and despair are born at midnight, but morning follows. "Weeping may endure for a night," says the Psalmist, "but joy cometh in the morning." This faith adjourns the assemblies of hopelessness and brings light into the dark chambers of pessimism. [quoted in Strength to Love]
Pray for our families: our hope for the future


adoption-dreams.org
wanting to adopt?
~ wanting to adopt? ~


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We must do something - Study this issue afflicting homes and families across the nation. We cannot wish it away!

Therapism's complicity - in this "well-intentioned" racket: When professional objectivity is compromised.

Allen Cowling Links Legal resources available for those facing scandal and false charges

Class Action Lawsuits take on the system. Perhaps YOU can help     send a message.

Legal Resources from LawGuru.com [USA] - not just child custody issues

Family Law on the Internet humorous and detailed (appears excellent)

Save The Children - Truly They Are Our Future

Youth Law News- law center dedicated to youth

SocialLaw.com extensive library to access

we must hear the children




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In Texas, Robin Cash fights for her children
Robin

God grant us
the
Audacity To Believe

in something better

[A Candidate Talks About Faith]


"A man is likely to mind his own business when it is worth minding.     When it is not,
he takes his mind off his own meaningless affairs by minding other people's business."

[Eric Hoffer]

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TO OUR NATION'S LEADERS

Don't let these oppressions continue. We look to you, Our Leaders.


Family Rights

Canadian William Shatner writes:

I have seen America at its best and at its worst. {But} Anchored in the precepts of the Constitution, America invariably makes the right choice. It's uncanny that given enough time with the checks and balances that are embedded in that great document, America rights its wrongs.




God give us leaders with compassion, leaders who will help close the gap of hope, leaders who will help us build a kinder and gentler America, and make sure that NO child, no family, is left behind. Parenting, ANY good parenting, is necessary and God-ordained work. It deserves our support as such. It does take a village to accomplish anything important. And that village surely is US!

As Martin Luther King said,


Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere

Children are the only future we will have

What's done to children, they will do to society. [Karl Menninger]

If you can't hold children in your arms, please hold them in your heart
[Mother Clare Hale]



They Belong to God

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
[Kahlil Gibran]

The parenting issue is crucial ~ please network with others !

Working WITHIN the system
we've got to CHANGE the system

- We need each other to do this -
Truly it takes a village
To accomplish most anything worthwhile in this world


Families ~ Linking
BlackFamilies.com
Yesterday Today Tomorrow


Though the cause of Evil prosper,
Yet 'tis Truth alone is strong.

And in "benign" Canada . . . .

EmilyShhhh....Why is this little girl in foster care?  Inquiring minds want to know!

Parents under fire for EXPOSING legalized Child Abductors.

Calgary Social Services Steals Baby from Handicapped Mom

Click here for story.

Injustice Busters has updated us: Frank Sampson, former director of the Cape Breton Children's Aid Society orchestrated the deep-sixing of this story and the new director, Marie Boone is ruthless and ambitious and has played a role in trying to justify the apprehension of Emma by trying to apprehend their other children! We have been threatened with lawsuits and police investigations, but none have been forthcoming because we tell the truth. It has, however, served to chill the press. The National Post has declined to do an update on this story even though their reporter, Richard Foot, was told outright lies. See update. (from Sheila Steele).

National Child Rescue Organisation of Canada - working to restore fairness and integrity to a system in trouble.

Mothers in Exile - exposing the multi billion dollar adoption industry, often hurting the ones they should be helping.

Laurie Edberg - Handicapped Mom (British Columbia) battling to help her own kids ... and others

Foster Care Council of Canada - Encouragement for former foster children

Children's Aid Society - Canadian quagmire: more problems in Ontario CAS.

Who's watching Child Protection Agencies? - a largely Ontario site

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We Must Not Forget

Child Abuse Is Real

It does happen, in cities and towns the world over

Good and bad in Tragedy (loss of a child)
our beloved daughter

Never forget the children     -     Our Most Precious Treasure


You Shaped Me
You shaped me
~ a tribute to all those who nurture children ~


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Parenting is work

Phil E Quinn


From Spare the Rod: Breaking the Cycle of Child Abuse, Abingdon Press, 1988. (pp. 187-188)

To date, most efforts to focus attention on child abuse have been attempts to determine, in specific instances, whether someone has done something 'wrong' or 'bad' to a child. Our attitude has been judgmental and punitive, looking at behavior in terms of whether a parent should be punished or whether the state should intervene. Such a negative, self-defeating approach has resulted far too often not only in greater harm to a child and eventual breakup of a family, but also in waves of public panic that have a frightening resemblance to a Salem witch hunt.

If we are to prevent child abuse, our attitude must change. Rather than trying to determine what parents are doing wrong, we must focus our attention and concern on whether they are doing what is necessary for the child to grow and develop normally, within the family's unique environment. Rather than seeking out parental "crimes" against the children, we must turn our attention to deficiencies in the parent-child relationship which can be corrected for the benefit of the family, enabling the adults to become better parents. Our goal is to help, not hurt; to build and strengthen, not weaken and destroy.

I am calling for a more positive, constructive approach to parenting and its problems - an approach that will strengthen the relationship with support and education rather than weaken it with treats, accusations, labels, and unnecessary punishment. Abusing a family while protecting one of its members from abuse is not the answer and can only perpetuate the problem.


Two wrongs don't make a right.



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How do we stop the abuse of power?

Won't you tell others?

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CPS - Related   Multi Links

MedinaErth's   American Injustice Links

let native struggles inspire you
have HOPE Its gonna be worth it


never lose hope


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- Ephesians 4 : 32







. . . . . . . freedom of speech, freedom of conscience

two souls
sing, the beloved country
divine love creates anew




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In the words of Lincoln:
Neither let us be slandered from our duty by false accusations against us, nor frightened
from it by menaces of destruction to the Government nor of dungeons to ourselves.
Let us have faith that right makes might, and in that faith, let us, to the end, dare to do our duty as we understand it.

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