The power of sexual surrender. The cross is the path to the crown.

Henry Makow dissects Marie Robinson.

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Victim of Love

from Bernini's The Ecstasy of Saint Theresa



Andrea Dworkin has said:
We have a double standard, which is to say, a man can show how much he cares by being violent --
see, he's jealous, he cares -- a woman shows how much she cares by how much she's willing to be
hurt; by how much she will take; how much she will endure.

Sweet Surrender
Woman as Victim
Natalie Shainess


The Power of Sexual Surrender
Marie N. Robinson's advocacy of female submission
by Henry Makow, PhD

May 29, 2002

Marie Nyswander Robinson MD, a Cornell educated psychiatrist devoted her New York City practice to the treatment of frigidity. Her small book, The Power of Sexual Surrender (1958) is the sanest work on feminine psychology ever written. In a world where thousands of self-help books are published, this eloquent guide to sexual health and happiness is out of print. The reason? It is politically incorrect.

Dr. Robinson writes that a woman's identity lies in an "essential feminine altruism." A woman's self-expression and power is based on making her husband and children her first priority. Similarly, her sexual satisfaction and spiritual fecundity depend on self-surrender.

Robinson says men and women are different by nature. Men are designed for mastery of the external (physical) world, and women for mastery of the internal (spiritual) world and the home. These are not social stereotypes, as feminists argue. "Women are designed for duties different from those of the marketplace, another kind of stress entirely," writes Robinson. They "tend to lose their essential womanliness if they stay [in the marketplace] by choice." (149)

Dr. Robinson says that millions of American women suffer from frigidity. While she explores many complex causes in detail, she notes that frigid women universally adopt the feminist view. This view (that men exploit woman and a career as a wife and mother is demeaning) creates an "emotional logjam" that impedes sexual response and psychological development.

According to Robinson, modern women have an identity crisis because they think they are no longer needed as women. Before the industrial revolution, the home was the center of all life and a woman was the indispensable center of the home. She prepared clothing and food, reared and trained the children and helped with farm tasks. The industrial revolution seemed to make women obsolete. Everything could be bought in stores. The home was empty. Children went to school, husbands to work. Children were not needed and were even considered a liability.

Woman's response was to turn against her own femininity. Mary Wollstonecraft launched feminism with her book Vindication of the Rights of Women (1792). Proclaiming that women were identical to men, she dedicated feminism to the achievement of maleness in women. According to Robinson, "the feminist credo thoroughly discredited feminine needs and characteristics and substituted male goals for female goals."(53)

The other response to the industrial revolution was not feminist, but "Victorian" but it also rejected femininity. Robinson says Victorian women took "revenge" on men by denying women had any sexual feelings. They "were amazingly successful in convincing men in general and even the scientists of the day that frigidity was indeed a basic attribute of the female." (54)

Thus, feminists and Victorian women laid the foundations for modern female neurosis.

"The depreciation of the goals of femininity, biological and psychological, became part and parcel of the education of millions of American girls. Homemaking, childbearing and rearing, cooking, the virtues of patience, lovingness, givingness in marriage, have been systematically devalued. The life of male achievement has been substituted for the life of female achievement." (55)

The feminist-Victorian antagonism to men was handed down from mother to daughter so that "to millions of women, hostility towards the opposite sex seems almost a natural law. Although many a modern women may pay lip service to the ideal of a passionate and productive marriage to a man, underneath she deeply resents her role, conceives of the male as fundamentally hostile to her, as an exploiter of her. She wishes in her deepest heart, and often without the slightest awareness of the fact, to supplant him, to exchange roles with him." (emphasis mine, 56)

Robinson says that women have blamed their problems on the outside world instead of looking within for the real problem and the real solution. She says that if feminism had brought women happiness in relationships or careers, the game might have been worth it.

"But it hasn't been. The game has brought frigidity and restlessness and a soaring divorce rate, neurosis, homosexuality, juvenile delinquency, all that results when a woman in any society deserts her true function." (56)

Dr. Robinson writes that once the emotional "log jam" is removed, a woman's natural instincts will flow and health will be restored. Essentially this involves "allowing herself to trust her husband in a very deep sense. It means that she finally realizes that she no longer has to fear or oppose his strength, but that she can rely on it to protect her, to give her the secure climate necessary for the full flowering of her femininity." (153)

On the other hand, the woman who mistrusts her husband's love and, as a consequence, her own femininity has a "difficult, painful, frenetic" approach to life. She is at war with herself.

In bed, she has to feel "in control all the time." For a profound vaginal orgasm, Robinson writes, "the excitement comes from the act of surrender. There is a tremendous surging physical ecstasy in the yielding itself, in the feeling of being the passive instrument of another person..." (158)

Robinson regards the clitoris as a masculine vestige. She implies that even if a woman is sexually active and mechanically adept she may still be frigid. Feminine sexuality depends on "absolute trust" in a man, which enables a woman to fully receive and fully respond.

Dr. Robinson believes that there is nothing in life as important as love. Marriage is the key to our development as human beings. It is through this relationship that the power of love is felt in the world.

"Love means, in its very deepest sense union; union between individuals...It is the most basic and profound urge we have and its power for good is illimitable... the lover partner becomes as important as oneself...This fact is why real love never leads to domination or to a struggle for power..." (129)

The significance of The Power of Sexual Surrender is profound.

By coercing women to abandon their femininity and usurp the male role, feminism throws a spanner in the natural heterosexual mechanism of humanity. The consequences are dire. Millions of women are condemned to emotional and physical isolation. Similarly, men are deprived of the role of protector and provider essential to their psychological development and fulfillment.

The triumph of such a manifestly wrongheaded ideology, and the suppression of the truth, signifies that control in the world has passed to a malignant force. As I have shown in previous articles an amoral elite power fosters feminism as part of a long-term agenda to dislodge western civilization from its religious and cultural moorings. The tax-exempt foundations, the elite media, the CIA and the Communist Party of the USA are all behind the promotion of sexual dysfunction in the guise of feminism. The purpose is to destroy the nuclear family, decrease population, stunt human development and destabilize society. Our government is part of this elite agenda that aims to create a materialist, fascist "New World Order". Feminists who oppose the NWO are unwitting agents of it.

Finally, where does this leave the female "identity crisis"? Men and women must be free to find fulfillment in any way they please. A woman can have a career. Robinson's work suggests that a woman need not give up her femininity if her career takes second place to her love of husband and family. The world (men women and child alike) is starved for the feminine principle: beauty, grace, love. This article could as easily have been titled: "Wanted: A Few Good Women."

Bernini sculpture:
The Ecstasy of Saint Theresa

The Ecstasy of Saint TheresaAre females really as masochistic as Freud suggested?

Masochism is the desire to seek physical and psychological pain or to submit oneself to the will of another. It has been called sadism turned inward, for one part of the person damages another part. Helene Deutsch, one of the early psychoanalysts, called it "the most elemental power in female mental life." She thought masochism derived not from penis envy but from the biological experiences of womanhood. Pain is an inevitable part of female reproductive destiny, inherent to menstruation, defloration, intercourse, childbirth. Deutsch described women's willingness to suffer in the "service of the species" as necessary and psychologically healthy.

Above from Rita Freedman. Page 113. Beauty Bound


Henry Makow is the author of A Long Way to go for a Date. He received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto. He welcomes your feedback and ideas at henry@savethemales.ca
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Mater dolorosa

Adrienne Rich notes that "The idea of woman's passive suffering is inevitable has worn many guises in history; not only those of Eve and the Virgin Mary but also later ones such as Helene Deutsch's association of passivity and masochism with 'normal' femininity." [p168. Of Woman Born]

Sexual Frigidity Is Caused by Feminism

September 14, 2009

(This reprises and revises an important article I wrote in May 2004.)

by Henry Makow, PhD

Marie N. Robinson MD, a Cornell educated psychiatrist devoted her New York City practice to the treatment of frigidity. Her book, The Power of Sexual Surrender (1958) is a revealing study of the feminine psyche. It is out-of-print. Why? It is politically incorrect.

Dr. Robinson says that millions of American women suffer from frigidity. While she explores many different causes, she notes that frigid women universally adopt the feminist view. This view, that a career as a wife and mother is demeaning and men exploit woman, creates an "emotional logjam" which obstructs sexual response and psychological development.

Dr. Robinson writes that a woman's identity lies in an "essential feminine altruism."

Her self-expression and power are based on making her husband and children her first priority. Similarly, her sexual satisfaction and spiritual fecundity depend on self-surrender.

GENDER DIFFERENCES

Robinson says men and women are different by nature. Men are designed for mastery of the external (physical) world, and women for mastery of the internal (spiritual) world and the home. These are not social stereotypes, as feminists argue.

"Women are designed for duties different from those of the marketplace, another kind of stress entirely," writes Robinson. They "tend to lose their essential womanliness if they stay [in the marketplace] by choice." (149)

According to Robinson, modern women have an identity crisis because they think they are no longer needed as women. Before the industrial revolution, the home was the centre of all life and a woman was its heart. She nursed and trained the children, prepared clothing and food, and helped with farm tasks.

The industrial revolution seemed to make women obsolete. Children were not needed and were even considered a liability. Everything could be bought in stores. The home was empty. Children went to school, husbands to work.

Woman's response was to turn against her own femininity. Mary Wollstonecraft wrote a feminist manifesto Vindication of the Rights of Women (1792) that proclaimed women were identical to men, and promoted maleness in women.

According to Robinson, "the feminist credo thoroughly discredited feminine needs and characteristics and substituted male goals for female goals."(53)

The other response to the industrial revolution was not feminist, but "Victorian." Robinson says Victorian women took "revenge" on men by denying women had any sexual feelings. They "were amazingly successful in convincing men in general and even the scientists of the day that frigidity was indeed a basic attribute of the female." (54)

Thus, feminists and Victorian women both laid the foundations for modern female neurosis.

"The depreciation of the goals of femininity, biological and psychological, became part and parcel of the education of millions of American girls. Homemaking, childbearing and rearing, cooking, the virtues of patience, lovingness, giving ness in marriage, have been systematically devalued. The life of male achievement has been substituted for the life of female achievement." (55)

FEMININE DEVALUATION AND SELF-HATRED

The feminist-Victorian antagonism to men was handed down from mother to daughter so that "to millions of women, hostility towards the opposite sex seems almost a natural law. Although many a modern women may pay lip service to the ideal of a passionate and productive marriage to a man, underneath she deeply resents her role, conceives of the male as fundamentally hostile to her, as an exploiter of her. She wishes in her deepest heart, and often without the slightest awareness of the fact, to supplant him, to exchange roles with him." (emphasis mine 56)

Robinson says that if feminism had brought women happiness, the game might have been worth it.

"But it hasn't been. The game has brought frigidity and restlessness and a soaring divorce rate, neurosis, homosexuality, juvenile delinquency all that results when a woman in any society deserts her true function." (56)

Dr. Robinson writes that once the emotional "log jam" is removed, a woman's natural instincts will flow and health will be restored. Essentially this involves "allowing herself to trust her husband in a very deep sense. It means that she finally realizes that she no longer has to fear or oppose his strength, but that she can rely on it to protect her, to give her the secure climate necessary for the full flowering of her femininity." (153)

For a profound vaginal orgasm, Robinson writes, "the excitement comes from the act of surrender. There is a tremendous surging physical ecstasy in the yielding itself, in the feeling of being the passive instrument of another person..." (158)

On the other hand, the woman who mistrusts her husband's love and, as a consequence, her own femininity has a "difficult, painful, frenetic" approach to life. She is at war with herself. In bed, she has to feel "in control all the time."

Robinson regards the clitoris as a masculine vestige. She implies that a woman may still be frigid even if she is sexually active and mechanically adroit. Feminine sexuality depends on "absolute trust" in a man, which allows a woman to fully receive and fully respond.

Dr. Robinson says there is nothing in life more important than love. She believes marriage is the key to human development. The power of love is felt in the world through this relationship.

"Love means, in its very deepest sense union; union between individuals...It is the most basic and profound urge we have and its power for good is illimitable... the lover partner becomes as important as oneself...This fact is why real love never leads to domination or to a struggle for power..." (129)

FEMINISM AS ELITE DEPOPULATION PROGRAM

The significance of The Power of Sexual Surrender is profound.

By coercing women to abandon their femininity and usurp the male role, feminism throws a spanner in the natural heterosexual mechanism of humanity. Millions of women are condemned to loneliness and frustration. Similarly, men are deprived of the role of protector and provider essential to their development and fulfillment.

The triumph of such a wrongheaded ideology, and the suppression of the truth, signifies that control in the world has passed to a malignant force. As I have shown in previous articles an amoral elite power fosters feminism as part of a long-term agenda to dislodge western civilization from its religious and cultural moorings.

Tax-exempt foundations, the elite media, the CIA and the Communist Party of the USA are all behind the promotion of sexual dysfunction in the guise of feminism.

The purpose is to destroy the nuclear family, decrease population, stunt human development and destabilize society. We are a luxury the super rich can no longer afford. Our government is part of this agenda that aims to create a materialist, totalitarian "New World Order". Feminists who oppose the NWO are in fact its unwitting agents .

CONCLUSION

I encourage women to have careers if they want to, but if they also want marriage and family, career should be secondary. Naturally men and women should be treated equally in the work force.

Robinson's book confirms my thesis that woman wants love and man wants power. Heterosexual marriage is based on the exchange of female worldly power for male love.

A woman who seeks power is neutering herself and her husband. She will not receive love from a man whose identity is based on power. She cannot love someone she competes with. He cannot love her. This is the dilemma of feminists today.

As Marie N. Robinson confirms, woman loves by entrusting her power to the right man, her husband. He uses it to champion her interests. Thus she both empowers him and channels male power in a socially constructive direction. A woman's real power is love, the power of self surrender.

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Essay: the Myth of Women's Masochism

E.L. James' erotic Fifty Shades of Grey

Katie Roiphe : women dig spanking now?

Kate's blog celebrating the spanko fetish

Julian Robinson : submits to Gynecocracy

Hurts So Good
Freud regarded the mutually reinforcing aspects of S-M as "the most common and important of all perversions"

One of his female disciples, Helene Deutsch backed up Freud's and Krafft-Ebing's views, asserting that all women are masochistic by nature.

A modern treatise defending Islamic culture and religion [Woman in the Shade of Islam] reiterates this viewpoint. In fact, it makes the point that there are many women who enjoy being beaten at times as they appreciate the love and concern. Does this truly demonstrative affection somehow make the man's love seem REAL? These kind of women are labelled (in the English edition): Submissive, or subdued women.

To wit:

Psychologist G. A. Holdfield, in his book Psychology and Morals states the following:
[quoted in Woman in the Shade of Islam, English edition, translated from Arabic]
"The instinct of submission strengthens at times, in the human being so much that a submissive person will enjoy seeing someone overpowering him, over-ruling him and being cruel to him. Such a submissive person bears the consequences of his submission due to the fact that he enjoys the pain. This is a wide spread instinct amongst women, even if they do not realize it. For this very reason, women are well known for bearing more pain than men. A wife, from this type of women, becomes more attracted and admiring of her husband when he beats her. Nothing, on the other hand, will sadden some women, as much as a soft, very kind and very obedient husband who is never upset regardless of being challenged!"



In The Female Eunuch, Germaine Greer cites a woman's Letter in Forum, Vol. II, No. 3

"I am 39 and have been submitting to corporal punishment from my husband ever since we married 15 years ago. We have both treated this nmatter of punishment as a normal sort of proceeding. It was not until recently, when we saw some letters in Forum that we realized there were people who had guilt complexes about spanking their mates.

"Our ideas are quite simple. My husband happens to believe that in marriage the husband should be the BOSS. I agree with him and I recognize that wrong-doing should be punished. We both think the simplest, most convenient, most effective and most natural way for a man to punish the faults of his woman is to spank or whip her; but not too severely, certainly not brutally."

p 196




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So What About Men?

If sexual surrender is so sublime and fulfilling for women,
why don't men jump at the opportunity to do it?

Interestingly, George Gilder says as much. Does not woman, in some sense, "tame" the brute in man? Is she not heaven's appointed "Civilizer" of mankind? Or are those days gone with the wind?

Here is "worshipping your wife"

quoting Clairette de Longvilliers, "If you want your wife to be a Goddess, worship her."

Interestingly, Renaissance humanist Pico della Mirandola described a man who needed to be flogged before he could have sex. (see contemporary husbands who need a "jolt")

What went wrong with his wiring?
Johann Heinrich Meibom supposed that flogging the backside warms the semen (upwards to the kidneys), and thus, in turn, the heated semen causes sexual excitement once it reaches the testicles. (proved or not, some husbands are hooked on horny honeys)

I'd like to see a man try to endure pain like a woman in childbirth. (Didn't the mystics suggest "Masochism as a Spiritual Path?)

After his ordeal of severe floggings and privations, Saint John of the Cross told his friends, "Don't be surprised if I show a love of suffering. God have me a high value of it when I was in prison in Toledo." See a barefoot reformer.

Jean Genet, speaking of the physical pain or torture suffered by the weaker men in old French correctional milieu's, celebrated the joys of surrender. Some men not only come to the point where they relax and enjoy, but literally to experience something approaching perceptual exaltation.

A Southwest Leather Conference in Phoenix AZ January 2012 will highlight Ecstatic Communion: BDSM and Spirituality.

Intense sensations, pain and confinement have been used by people across many times and cultures as pathways to spiritual experiences. Sometimes deliberately and sometimes by happenstance, our scenes contain elements of the mystical or moments of deep intimacy or personal revelation. Bondage and pain can free us from our ordinary perceptions of our bodies and lead us into something entirely different. Some people have an out of body experience, are overwhelmed with a sense of wonder, or feel at one with all living beings. In our time together, we'll look at parallels between some traditional understandings of mysticism and our lived experiences of BDSM. We'll consider ways to nurture that connection and make it more likely (but never guaranteed) that we can access spaces of insight or mystical experience. People of all beliefs - or no belief - are entirely welcome.
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The power of submission lies not in the ability to kneel before another, to give over one's
body or the wearing of a collar. The power of submission can be found only in the heart of
one who gives her love to another freely,   knowing what joy and pain will come from it.