God hates child abuse:
"It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea."

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God hates child abuse
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MOM WOW




The children are talking

Can we hear what they say?



God hates child abuse
" it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea."

Th Bible cannot be used to excuse or justify child abuse. Jesus declares unequivocally that "it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea." [Mark 9:42]

qui autem scandalizaverit unum de pusillis istis qui in me credunt expedit ei ut suspendatur mola asinaria in collo eius et demergatur in profundum maris [Mathew 18:6]


Karl Menninger has said:
Love cures people -- both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.

Catholic thought regarding "the nurture and admonition" of children.

The high calling of parenthood:

"God comes first"

Pope Leo XIII in his encyclical Sapientiae Christianae [1890] exhorts parents
"to regulate the government of their households and the first education of their children according to [Christian] precepts. The family is the cradle of civil society, and it is for the most part in the surroundings of the home that the destiny of states is prepared. Those who wish to tear society from Christianity, go to the very roots and endeavor to corrupt the family. They do not allow themselves to be deterred from this attempt by the thought that this cannot be accomplished without inflicting upon parents the most cruel outrage; for to parents it belongs by virtue of natural right to educate their children to the ends which God has given them. It is a strict obligation laid upon parents to give all their care, and to neglect no effort to repulse energetically all unjust violence done to them in this matter, so that they may guard their exclusive authority over the education of their children. They must, moreover, imbue these with the principles of Christian morality. .... Always and everywhere accounts must be taken of the great influence exercised over the souls of children by home education. If the young find in the home the rule of a virtuous life, and, as it were a practical school of Christian virtue, the salvation of society in the future is in great part guaranteed."
Dads are so important | Kids need parents in love | Saviour like a Shepherd | It will be worth it all


For the victims, we say

Never give up!

Get Help! Ask for it, look for it, find someone you can trust.

Sometimes, out of bad things, good can come.
Martin Luther King said "God is still able to wring good out of evil."


Thornton Wilder: I am convinced that, except in a few extraordinary cases, one form or another of an unhappy childhood is essential to the formation of exceptional gifts.
Sarayu tells her protege (the grief-stricken Mack)

"If anything matters, everything matters. Because you are important, everything you do is important. Every time you forgive, the universe changes; every time you reach out and touch a heart or a life, the world changes; with every kindness and service, seen or unseen, (God's) purposes are accomplished, and nothing will ever be the same again."

From William P. Young's novel The Shack


Liberty is not the power of doing what we like, but the right to do what we ought.
[Lord Acton]

Off the wall reflections
by webster Bob Shepherd

Bob ShepherdMost families and parents and institutions (schools or whatever) could probably be charged with (at least accused of) some version of accountability (structure, control, discipline etc). The (Florida) Marianna case is battling back, looking for scapegoats, and some of those in authority are worried about image and damage control. Ironically, the success stories are unnoticed in the media eagerness for juicy stories, scandals, and "torture" headlines. So the victims "memory" suddenly improves, and juicy details suddenly "come back" to them, resulting in embellished exposés for the newly lionized investigative journalists. (And perhaps fame, celebrity, even book deals for the now-announced "victims" (real -- or slightly exaggerated).

Wherever we turn to, Winston Churchill, Martin Luther King, etc -- integrity is a beacon. Abuse is an abomination.

But so is lying.

Always beneath the radar, it seems, is a good side. We have many stories, never heard of, where the boys took their abuse, grew up and graduated, then made something good of their lives, bringing credit both to their own resilience and resolve -- but also bringing credit (and satisfaction) to everyone along the way who believed in them, including (yes) the ones whom others have branded as "abusers."

If you heal ten people, giving of yourself, all ten will go their way happier for your efforts. But I bet you only one or two of the ten will turn around and thank you. Administrators do their best with these kids, hoping they can make something good of their lives. Most of them do, even if sometimes they bog down for a while. Who knows when, or even if. There's a mystery to the alchemy of the soul. But even the socalled abusers, most of them, are trying to do their jobs the best they can. Most of them want to help those troubled boys. And many of them (themselves) have come from rough backgrounds, and they KNOW what helped them. They somehow understand a purpose behind the correction they themselves received, earlier. And have forgiven their own disciplinarians enough to grow up, to move on, and to try to do some good in the world.

Remember, behind every storm cloud may be a rainbow. (But don't we have to look for it?)


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